Lately the texts are fewer and not consistent. Having polar opposite views about how to spend your free time can obviously be a deal breaker — if couples are unwilling to understand their partner's motivations.
But they also experience greater opportunities for growth and better skills in negotiating and compromising. And maybe I wanted to stay in mainly, but I at least wanted to be in the same room as him, wanted him nearby. And the fact I always reach out for plans despite me telling him is feel better about being invited. I never do small talk with my husband or family.