The dreaded almost-relationship reared its ugly head as emotional unavailability plagued what could have been. Separation and divorce are two of the most emotionally draining, difficult, and painful life events someone can go through, and many married people will experience these stressors in their lifetime.
Let him know that you understand the need to go slow and you are willing to wait as long as he needs. Then, when you factor divorce into the equation, there is added complication arising from potential legal matters, including property and custody of children. Some days though, like today, I need to remind myself, that I am human, accept defeat and prepare to battle another day. This advice goes out the window if his marriage ended due to him engaging in infidelity , which is a major red flag. Instead of waiting for problems to arise, you will learn how to avoid creating them. The key to finding out whether or not he is worth your time is to communicate with him about what YOU are looking for and then ask him what HE is looking for.